We are losing the skills of social intelligence and the ability to communicate face-to-face. We talk in 24 character sound bites and would rather email someone than talk to them in person. Research says that we are becoming ‘socially inept.’
A headline in the Vancouver Sun read, “Plugged In but Socially Awkward.” A poll by Angus Reid found that “almost 70 per cent of online Canadians think we are becoming more superficial and three-quarters of Canadians say we are losing our social skills because of social media. Even among social media users, that opinion is shared by 57 per cent.”
1. Avoid making people ‘win’ you over. When you meet someone, have already made the decision that you are going to like that person.
2. Once you know the other person’s name, use it in conversation.
3. If someone comes up to say hello while you are talking to someone else, immediately and graciously introduce that person: “Rhonda, nice to see you. Let me introduce you to Ethan. We just met and he runs a fascinating business….”
4. Remember when arriving at an event to search out the host and when you leave thank them for the enjoyable time.
5. Avoid talking about yourself, instead ask good questions. What’s a good question? It’s quite simple: a good question is when you care about the answer.
6. Have the gift of emotional uplift. After a person has finished talking to you they should feel better as a result of meeting you.
7. Rescue wallflowers. Your mother would be proud.