Online information and advice is abundant. Relevant, valuable content is now so easily accessible, it's literally at the tip of our fingers. And yet it remains that some of our most meaningful learnings come from our human experiences and personal connections.
As such, I want to share with you a few keys ideas that resonated with me from the annual Woman of Worth Event held at the spectacular Sparkling Hill Resort in Vernon BC on March 2nd.
Apart from being hosted at the truly impressive, crystal-adorned resort, The WOW Event is one of a kind. It is a day designed to celebrate and empower women in all aspects of life, from business and health to personal fulfillment, and although the audience is female, there was an abundance of great content that would benefit us all.
Here are some of the gems:
1) Although being busy is revered, respected and widely encouraged, being busy is neither sustainable nor satisfying.
The busier we are, the better the feedback. Have you ever noticed that? When we're busier than all heck, we are admired, given accolades and generally made to feel that we're something extraordinary for getting so much done. In fact, although the feedback is positive and can make us feel super-human, we don't actually feel fulfilled. We more likely feel exhausted, frustrated, and apathetic. Being busy is just that: busy. Don't let the accolades fool you. There are better ways to live a rewarding life than checking off your to-do list.
2) Life's ultimate goal is Happiness. We achieve happiness by creating something that we feel passionate about.
When we create and share things that make others happy, we also experience happiness. When we create things that contribute to the Greater Good AND make people happy, we experience a deeper and more meaningful happiness in return. The degree of happiness that you feel is directly related to the impact you have and the happiness you bring to others. It's as simple as that.
3) Spend your life creating new stories.
How old are your Stories? If you're still telling stories from years ago, it's time to do something new that challenges you, invigorates you and gets you back in the game. By experiencing life in new ways, alone or with others, you challenge yourself, learn, and improve. These are the memories and stories that, upon reflection, make your life interesting. As a good friend once said to me, never let your past be bigger than your future.
4) Clutter is the biggest thing that gets in the way of clarity.
Clutter, chaos, disorganization, over-stimulation … they all amount to the same thing: distraction. There is a reason that modern design is simple, clean and functional. It brings a feeling of peace, serenity, harmony and relaxation – much needed in today's hectic lifestyle. Your mind needs the opportunity to rest and rejuvenate so that it can rise above the minutia, identify priorities, and create solutions. When we are buried so deeply in clutter, we can't dig our way out and it's impossible to see the light.
5) If it feels wrong, it is wrong.
Trust your intuition. Too many of us live predominantly in logic and analysis. We think our way out of problems that, had we listened to our intuition, we would have probably avoided. Learn to pay attention to the little voice in your head, the discomfort in your stomach, and the various cues your mind and body send you. They have already processed valuable information your brain hasn't even become conscious of yet.
6) Successful people make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly.
Successful people have exceptional clarity and focus. They know what they want, why they want it, and how they expect to achieve it and so, decisions are easy to make. Alternatively, when circumstances challenge their decisions, they take the time to understand the issues, review their initial decision and identify solutions. But when it's clear that a decision needs to be made, they make it quickly and move on.
7) Courage comes from what you've done, not from what you're going to do.
How many times have you thought that you weren't ready to tackle a challenge and so you've backed down, waiting for a more opportune time in the future? Courage comes from pushing through your fears, doing it anyway, and realizing that, despite the outcome, you're OK. Sometimes you'll succeed, sometimes you won't, and unless you're risking your life, you'll always arrive on the other side still intact, and more experienced that when you started. You'll have new knowledge, insights, and learnings that, should you choose, give you the courage to try again.
And so, the message herein is simple. Take time to get clear, enjoy meaningful connections, create to contribute, and pursue new experiences. By doing so, you will feel fulfilled and you'll have great stories to tell.